Magic in the Madness

Today is Christmas. Our family's favorite holiday. So sometimes I wonder why it doesn't feel more, well.. magical. We wait for it all year, build up to it starting immediately after Thanksgiving. We have our own traditions, like cruising around town, with kid-sized Starbucks hot chocolate, listening to holiday tunes and checking out the best light displays. For weeks before, I bake, shop, address cards, and wrap gifts, just like many of you.

Our Christmas Eve routine goes something like this: We go to church. Then we come home, eat what the kids call a "snack dinner", then open our presents, all except Santa's of course. As we headed to church in our minivan last night, my son, who's five, was somber. The build up to Christmas, combined with the Kindergarten class party sugar buzz, had brought out the worst in him the last few days. And for a little boy worried about which list he would be on, it was a serious situation. He confided that he was afraid if Santa saw everything he did, his name might be at the top of the naughty list. After some discussion, we managed to convince him that he was a shoe-in for the nice list, based on our recommendation, especially if he sat still and listened intently during the next hour - Christmas Eve service.

The service was beautiful; classic Christmas carols and Scripture readings in candlelight helped me focus on the magic of Christmas. But the balcony was crowded and little children whined and squirmed while their parents grew more and more frustrated. We'd been there, done that, so instead of being irritated, I found myself thinking two things: 1) The chubby three-year-old who informed his daddy that "I will never play with you again!" was pretty cute and 2) I'm so glad it's not my kids this year.

After service, we bolted out the door toward the parking lot because the kids didn't want to "waste" one minute socializing while their presents beckoned from the other side of town. I was irritated. I had vowed not to let the Christmas chaos get the best of me, and here I was practically speed walking to keep up with my family, on a mission to open more stuff that none of us needs.

We threw "dinner" together - plates of fruits, veggies, chips & salsa, and cheese & crackers. Steve & I insisted on an orderly family dinner, pointing out that there was plenty of time to open gifts. (After all, we only give each child two gifts, and Santa gives one. That's what grandparents are for!). It didn't quite turn out that way. My son ate three carrots, two Ritz crackers and a slice of cheese, then hopped up from the table insisting that he was "stuffed". Against my better judgment, we abandoned the snack food and dirty dishes and headed into the living room to unwrap. The kids liked their Legos and CD's, but after all the frantic activity, there it was again. The feeling. That something was missing. That going through the motions of Christmas is not Christmas at all. That the white lights, red bows and fragrant Christmas tree do not Christmas make.

After we put the kids to bed, I sat in front of the fireplace, sipping peppermint hot chocolate (Steve's last-minute egg nog quest had been unsuccessful.). I was still, for the first time in weeks, and I forced myself to think about that night 2,000 years ago. God put on baby skin and laid down next to the animals in a Bethlehem stable. That's the part that always gets me. I can't wrap my mind around it no matter how hard I try. I get goose bumps, then I cry. I feel overwhelmed and humbled at the same time. I wonder why He did it. Then I remember, "For God so loved the world, that He gave..." That's what I almost missed in the rush of our routine rituals -- the simplicity of love. Come to think of it, I probably do that a lot.